No relationship is perfect but if you can work on these tips below it will help your relationship last longer as it minimises the conflict. 

The biggest issue in a relationship (in my experience) is conflict. What causes conflict? Well it is generally caused by problems rising where both parties have different opinions on the matter. But, if you were to share the same values (or most of the values) that will foster stability and common ground within your relationship therefore, decreasing conflict and increasing the chances of a longer and loving relationship.  

Every relationship requires a strong foundation in order to succeed. It isn't necessary to have 100% of the same core values in order to last, as long as the "must-have" values are the same. Everyone's values differ so as long your core values are the same as your partners, that will help you navigate through the challenges that you will both endure.

A relationship built on lies is toxic. No honesty—no trust. Being honest can be hard, especially if you feel vulnerable when exposing your feelings but if you are honest it opens the door to growth and decreases the chances of sabotaging the relationship.

Everyone has a different perception on what loyalty means but in the context of a relationship it depends on their agreement—and sticking to it. Is your relationship monogamous? Or is it polyamorous? If the terms are met—you've got loyalty.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T—It's as simple as that. 

Understand that everyone is different and that you need to accept your partners flaws, accept them as they are and, do not change them. 

Trust is critical and fundamental to happiness. Giving and receiving trust provides comfort and safety in your relationship.  With trust you are both able to have space, freedom and enjoy life and love without fear of being betrayed or insecure. Just remember, trust isn't built overnight—it takes time.

This topic isn't often considered as a value in relationships but it is one of the biggest topics that causes conflict in a relationship. Financial status and habits cause enough stress in your life let alone having to work towards a goal with your partner—especially if you have different financial values. Are you someone who sticks to a strict budget? Are you an impulse buyer? Do you have debt? Do you pay bills on time? These are questions that are important but it is the answers are what will make or break your relationship. 

Communication is how we express what we think and feel. Share your thoughts with them—your disagreements, your fears, your passions, your wants, your needs, your love—in a respectful and honest manner. Good communication is healthy and it creates a healthy bond.

We all mess up. Acknowledge it—own it—learn from it—move on. You expect this from your partner so it is only fair that you do the same. 

Being flexible and resilient in life is a good value and characteristic to possess because we all know that there are plenty of emotional and physical challenges that we will experience in life. Being resilient is similar to being a cockroach—being easily adaptable to change. You will be thrown many curve balls in life as an individual and as part of your relationship, you just need to remember—it isn't you VS him—it is both of you VS the problem.  

Treat your special someone how you want to be treated. So, make a conscious effort to find out what they need and want in order to feel loved—then put it into action. There are many kinds of love and many ways to show it. Receiving a stable, long-lasting and persistent love from another person is a gift. Don't throw your relationship away from being lazy. Always put the effort in that they deserve.  

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Bye for now,